Sometimes our love ones need us to listen to their inner voice – that inaudible voice that shows up in body language, decision-making, or even in the act of withdrawal.
This same notion comes to mind when I think about my children and how they may not always voice their concerns but usually as a parent I can tell what’s going on – that’s if I’m paying attention and listening carefully to those non-verbal cues.
You may wonder why listening is just as important as watching? Here is why:
We’ve all been given an innate spirit of discernment. This spirit is truly a gift from God. The spirit of discernment is stronger in some than in others, however, we all possess it.
It can be that inner feeling that serves as a warning or a stop, look, and listen signal. You may get this when you meet someone new and they don’t have your best interest in mind or when you’re about to sign on the dotted line of that new line of credit or mortgage that you know you can’t afford.
On the other hand, discernment can also be a green light signal that tells you it’s okay to move forward. It could be when you go on an interview and you know right away that this is the place for you or when you ride pass a building for sale and you immediately know this is where you want to grow your new business.
The spirit of discernment is a guiding light that helps us in every area of our lives, but especially when we’re dealing with loved ones.
This reminds me of the story of Samuel when he was a young boy living with the priest Eli. As young Samuel slept he heard a voice calling his name. Because he was in a home with only Eli, he assumed that it was Eli calling him. Samuel answered, “Yes master, did you call?” but Eli explained that he did not call the boy.
After this happened a third time, Eli discerned that the boy’s name was being called by God. He instructed the young Samuel to say, “Speak for your servant hears” when he hears his name being called again.
The young Samuel went back to sleep and when he heard his name being called once more, he answered, “Speak for your servant hears.” God went on to share life-changing information with Samuel that was meant for his uplifting but Eli’s downfall.
Although the young Samuel was under the tutelage of the priest Eli, he did not know God on a personal level nor had he been exposed to receiving Word from the Lord, yet he was able to hear the inner promptings of God.
Just as young Samuel didn’t know God when he received a Word from the Lord is the same way that God speaks to many of us who may not know him at all or fail to spend time with him as often as we should or would like to.
Furthermore, young Samuel was wise enough to know that although he was afraid to tell Eli what God had spoken, he discerned that it was what he had to do if he didn’t want to face the consequences of shunning what he knew needed to be addressed (1 Samuel 3: 1-21).
The same goes for our families. Carve out time in your busy schedule to spend with your loved ones so that you may have the opportunity to discern when things are not going well. Your loved ones may not verbally expressed what’s going on, but you must be open to watch for those non-verbal cues, especially in your children, that expresses a greater need that they may not be able to verbalize.
Don’t ignore those inner promptings from God. This is His way of telling His children that He is watching, listening, and that He really does care. Will you do the same for those you love?